Zeta Probate

New Music!!

I'm so siked! I just discovered this new magazine called Gospel Link mag that's based out of the UK!!! I am so krunk about it! I was gonna subscribe, except it was so expensive. lol ...maybe later. But i'm so crunk about it cuz it's like there's just a whole other world out there.
I found out about it on Da Truth's myspace page going there to just listen to music, next thing I know i found out about this mag we was featured in..thought it was pretty cool it was in the UK. Then I went to the mag website and discovered all these other artists. One of them

I never thought there was this much good gospel music out there!!! I'm am so crunk about it beacause the only gospel rap artists I really respected were lyk Crae, Tedashii, Trip, Sho, Flame, Ambassador, and Da Truth. Also Json and JR, even though JR's R&B, of course i can't forget IZZY. Yup, that's about it. I'm not like a HUGE fanatic about gospel rap but the music just keeps getting better and I have a lot of respect for theses guys. And not just about what they say on stage, but what they do in life--that's the real center stage. I just got respect for them, at least for the one's I met and know.

Now I discovered this new artist (new to me) named Jahaziel from London. Checked out his myspace page, listened to his music...ilike. = )

I want to be....

I want to be confident

I want to be beautiful

I want to be a poised and tenacious me

I struggle to come out of a cacoon spun so tightly,

but the harder the struggle to come out,

the more beautiful my wings will be.

One day i'll face these challenges

head on in the playing field hit by hit,
a blow here
there,
but I'm never to be beat.

Never to retreat, i'm running this marathon and i will never cease
never to stop my feet, until
that day comes when only his face I will see,
until
like Paul i can run the race ahead of me, and press forward while pushing my past behind me
blurrs and blurrs of green leaves on trees they become as i speedily continue on this race...

I want to be

I want to be

I want to be
just as He made me.

jus keepin it short today = )

note to friend

Today I wrote a note to someone I used to be aquainted with in while in HS. She's actually 2 years older than me, but anyways, she used to go to my church. I saw her profile picture on facebook today and I was shocked. I normally just breeze past things like that, and actually, i had seem her profile pic before just thinking she had slipped back into life without Christ. However her status comment allowed me to think differently...she said :"A woman's heart must be so hidden in Christ that a man must seek the Lord to find it." I thought it was profound. Then looking at her religious status I saw that she was a proclaimed Christian, but before reading her profile, I would have thought she was different based on her profile picture. I was little confused, but more so concerned. I really believe in living out what you proclaim yourself to be. If I proclaimed myself Jewish, I would need to live that way. Aside from religion, if I proclaimed myself "a generous person" I should have evidence to back it up, or else i'm lying, right? Same thing with saying you're a Christian. So, I'm not sure if I went about it the right way, but I sent her a message because I felt compelled to. I wasn't tryin to be overly righteous or holier than thou, because I am not. I'm just not. God's standard was perfection and I already failed that test, and that's why I need Christ. But today I wanted to encourage her to think in the other direction, and I tried to tell her that her picture was suggestive in love. If i did not love her, i wouldn't have told her and left her to get hurt....I have a responsibility to my fellow Christian to tell them the truth as God sees. I just have to make sure I see as he sees.

On a normal day, I wouldn't have felt compelled to do so, but for some reason today, and even the other day at Starbucks meeting this girl who was a proclaimed stripper. She even asked me if i listened to Merilin Manson. I said no, but we talked a while. I will pray for her heart to see God, but at the moment all I could do was love. Not because of me, but because of Him.

Here it is below (the note to a friend):

Hey Shelly*! I really liked your the quote on your status:"A woman's heart must be so hidden in Christ that a man must seek the Lord to find it."
I definately agree with you on this statement, but I got a different message after looking at your profile picture...I'm sorry you may not like what you're about to read, but as your sis in Christ I felt I had to tell you this out of love: I feel like the picture on your profile is really suggesting something opposite of what your saying. I'm definately not perfect, and I stuggle with things. i'm not trying to bring you down by any means. However, to me the pic suggests that your seductive, and you are more after a man's heart than God's. I'm no expert, but you'll probably attract many guys who's hearts are no where near God, just because they're attracted to you physically.I'll just end this this:
10A wife of noble character who can find?She is worth far more than rubies.
11Her husband has full confidence in her and lacks nothing of value. Love ya.
-Randi

Thats all for today.

**name changed to conceal identity. She knows who she is. = )

no words

no words for this

no way to describe this

Pain.

throwing a pity party in my stomach

tumbling, turning,

i lay my head down trying to stop the nausea

the merry-go-round continues

and images past by me.

Reflecting

through my hazy vision i re-read the text in my mind.

The letters on the two-inch screen, scrolling down though it all scrolling in my memory again,

and i make a full circle in my thoughts, again : how could she?

I would never do such a thing as this.

Questioning my motives,

Questioning my mind, and quizzing me through past times

recollecting on what didn't happen

on what she wishes had.

To her it did.







I'm keeping the poem short today. Today I had a fight with someone i considered my best friend of 15 years. I don't know now...

We got into an argument today while texting. She told me she planned on getting another tattoo, and I called myself laughing it off, and saying "lol, why you need another one. Didn't you just get one?" (or something like it, this is how I meant it, lightly). She took offence to it, and jumped on the defense for no reason asking me why? and I responded jokingly saying something like, "You know what they say, they can be addicting!", and I believe followed with an LOL, or the lol was before that. Anyway, she then asked why would I question her motives like its bad or something. I'm not sure were she got all this from. I think she was reading this through tinted shades, which brings me to my next point. At that point of the texting, I was in the dentist office, afterward, i went to the post office. After I was leaving the post office, things got heated, and she started getting heated it seemed, sending me long texts about it, etc. I didn't really think anything of it, and was just like "I didn't mean for it to offend you and i didn't mean it like that. But whatever." Then she asked "then what did you mean" still edging it on further. Now I'm thinkin "why is she getting so heated about this? What is really going on?"

So I responded with "I meant what I said, but not necessarily in the way you took it. Guess you'd have to hear it in context (paraphrased; i'll paste the actual conversation in a second.)" and "I think your reading too much emotion into the text." Then she was real mad and told me that that I was "staring at her boyfriend" on her birthday, basically trying to steal him from her. I was like WOA then. She blew this waaaay out of proportion. I kind of laughed at her abruptness with that text, as it was way out of left field and she seemed to be gettting hyped over nothing...well, really something as simple as asking, "why did you want another tattoo?" She clearly had some deep seeded issues that I knew nothing about...

at this point i'm thinking first, What? That's obserd! and them i'm laughing at her attempt to take a stab at me about something as crazy as that.

The whole time i'm thinkin, it's nothing. She'll get over it. Let me just stop talkin to her.

But she kept escalating it further, saying she knew I was trying to get at him an all this.

Then I remembered how insecure she was about having close female friends, and getting to close to females, and it all made since. Walking up to my apartment at this point i'm laughing and thinking Okaaaay. LOL.

Number 1, Her and Mike must have got in a fight or somethin', and she's taking it out on me. or

Number 2, she's really desperately worried about loosing him, or him cheating on her?

I'm not really sure what to think really, because she never really tells me how she is really feeling. It's always been this expectation that I should "magically" know what's really going on, but the truth is, I never do. It's always a guessing game, and then sometimes there's never really a closure, just an ending to a matter. Apparently she harbors things in her that she can't talk about with anyone, or at least not me. I'm sure she tells Mike as she's always seemed to trust guys she's barely met and known for only a few months over a lifelong friend and family. Understandable (sarcasm).

She's always put this trust in guys immediately after meeting them and having a small connection with them, telling them deep dark secrets and sharing her life like they will never ever hurt her, but sadly all of them have, except Mike...At least so far. And actually I don't think he would intentinally.

It's always been this emotional rollercoaster with her, and i've put up with the ups and downs. Trying to be a supportive friend.

It's seemed she's been badly burned by other females in the past, and a lot between her and guys. If I have (burned her) I wouldn't even know, because she'd never tell me.

I never considered myself a threat to her and her relationships with guys.

I've always stayed away from that, until now that she's lashed it upon me.



I've always considered guys in relationships off limits. Instead of thinking *lightbulb*: hey, OPPORTUNITY!, I think BUMMER, and move on. Even guys i've known before they entered relationships and they did, I treat the same way. After the relational point, I distance myself from them out of respect for the girlfriend, who is a lot of times my friend too. Prime example: Vic and TC, Fred and Phylicia. I leave em alone. I tried hanging with them when they all got in relationships, but it got annoying because I had no one and it made me feel lonely everytime I was around them, so I quit hangin out with them. Doesn't mean I don't love or like them all, I just can't hang out with them the same as before. Same with my best friend and her man.

First off, I have no interest in the man she's dating. She ought to know by now my "type" and he is DEFINATELY NOT THE ONE. and I am in NO WAY ATTRACTED to him. Never was.

I was actually repulsed after reading the text. (lol, i can laugh now.) Sorry. Not that her man isn't attractive, but I just think he's just her type. Don't know of that came out right? lol. no, they aren't ugly. He ain't ugly, just not for me. they are good for each other.

Secondly, I'm surprised because not only have I not been in a relationship in like almost 5 years now, but I am not a flirt. And i battle everyday with patience and waiting for the one. I'm waiting for my man, I'm not going after him, although I would like to sometimes because i'm tired of waiting. But with that said, I'm definately not going after anyone, especially a man in relationship with a girl he deeply loves. I would never destroy the very thing i wish for myself someday.

When people find it, I choose to be happy for them. Even though I have every reason in the book to be jealous, bitter and frustrated. I am frustrated at times that i've been waiting so long and i'm still single while others jump from relationship to another, or have someone who loves them, or are engaged to be married, and I'm just left single. But i choose to rejoice with them as one day I hope they will with me. I feel like i've been patient, prudent, following God to my best abilities (still working on this, and always will), and praying a lot only to get nothing. But I keep hoping.



All I have is God's word, and I believe him when he says he will come. Just sometimes I get a little down about it, and I feel like there's something I must do, change, or work on because no guys find me intersting enough. I hate being this down on myself. I like feeling attractive, but most times I don't. Truth is, I beat myself up over the fact that I can't flirt like other girls, attract only jerks, never good guys (I'm still tryin to figure out why only guys who drink alcohol on the regular and party all the time, don't care about school, and are unambitious keep trying to get at me. THIS IS THE EXACT OPPOSITE of what I'm praying for in my husband. Why am I getting these dudes? I don't know, but I don't like it. And I say no to it everday. A lot of times i work with them, and they try and flirt with me. I flirt back sometimes, (or try to; i'm really bad at it. Sometimes they just look at me like 'what?' but then just smile and laugh it off. i suck at it. bad.))

Anyway, I feel like if you'd have someone to be worried about, it wouldn't be me because i'm not that confident chick that guys like and want to be with. I'm just so far off the radar screen of attraction for black guys especially (the ones my age). I'm just not their type. I'd like to marry a black man, but if I don't I don't care. It really doesn't matter to me, just as long as he has those qualities I pray for...



She told me that her man, that I believe she will mary inadvertently and unconvetionally had the qualities she had prayed for. At least now he found her. Why would I want to ruin something like that for my best friend after knowing all the hell she's been through with those other dudes, or jerks? I am truly happy for her. Unfortunately she doesn't think the same.

She thinks I would be coniving enough to try and "steal" him from her, and the worst part about it is that this has been going on for a long while behind my back, and i didn't even know. I thought she knew me better than this.

For her to accuse me of something like that makes me think she doesn't even know me at all.

At all.

Everything's always got to be about her and how she feels at the moment. Where she is on the rollercoaster, including on my birthday when we were forced to leave the fair early because she "just wanted to go home" and would really tell me why. Something was bothering her, and apperantly she couldn't tell me what it was. I found out the next day or so. But it was stupid. why couldn't she tell me that night so I knew what was going on, and that you weren't trying to ruin the fun on my birthday. I wasted my time and emotions worrying about her, and didn't even go to the afterparty like me and my other friend had wanted to originally. Fortunately, despite her selfishness and attitude (like you couldn't put it aside for a few hours? once i found out what was bothering her, what she did seemed like such an overreaction, but that's just my oppinion. It's for her decide not me. But i bet it was on top of another deep seeded issue...I'm just saying in light of things today...) me and my other friend still had fun.



This right here, what happened today, let's me know who's priority in her life. She said her boyfriend called me "foul" because I had "stared at him." I'm not sure if she accused him of something, and he was defending himself or what, but he said (according to her) "your friend is foul" because he thinks I was trying to get at him. How conceited is that! I'm not even attracted to him. Why would he say such a thing when he doesn't even know me?

And the saddest part about this who fiasco is that she believed him!! over me. Like always.

The man's word is supreme. The man can be trusted. Females are evil, backstabbing, caddy,ect...always? I think not. She ought to know me better than that. I'm not like those other females. I'm me!



It's funny because I belived God gave me the ministry he did (to care about women) because of things like this. To let them know that not all females aren't trustworthy, and that we really can be for each other and encouraging one another and not tearing each other down.



i knew of this insecurity she had, like many others (hey, I have some to), so I always tried to be extra sensitive to it. I would try so hard to not offend her with what i say, and avoid a situation like this by watching what i do...but the matter is, she's going to see what she wants to see no matter what i do. She wants to believe all females act caddy and try to steal each other's men.
Now this false accusal of me will be her prime example for her justification of believing this about all women: her best friend tried to still the one man she wanted to marry.
Not true.

I’ve only believed the best for her, and have tried to be the one to show her that not all females are evil, and some can in fact be trusted.
I can be trusted.
She’s claiming not only her boyfriend saw me “staring at him” but she did, and even her mom?
So I’m like, ok, when were you all going to tell me this? Not everyone has bad intentions. I don’t even remember staring at him. But I can tell you that if I did, it was non-intentional, and I am definitely not into him.
With her bringing up others into this, it made me question how many others may think this about me. I’m going to ask my roommate tomorrow if she’s ever felt “threatened” by me, or thought that I tried to steal Fred away from her. I haven’t. That man is clearly in love with her. I couldn’t even if I wanted to. And I definitely don’t want to, I want someone better for me--the one God has saved up for me. Period.

This really hurt because it was kept from me for so long, and also my best friend questioned my character in this when she should know me better. So this has me thinking, how many others think the same about me? I don’t want to be this person she’s made me out to be. And even if I did stare at him, I’m telling you, it wasn’t on purpose. I don’t have no purpose for that. This is really disappointing. I felt betrayed and started crying that someone would think such evil things about me when all I’ve tried to do is disprove that horrible stereo type of females. Then, I started blaming myself and thinking, well, if I had been in a relationship, this wouldn’t have happened and I’d have a real defense.
But I don’t. My only defense if the truth, and my heart. That’s all. I’ve prayed about this a little, too, and decided that I need to forgive her after I get over the initial shock.